Lizzy Miles — a Columbus, Ohio-based hospice social employee and creator of “Someplace In Between: The Hokey Pokey, Chocolate Cake and The Shared Dying Expertise” — is of the opinion that some folks can select once they die. She wrote within the hospice and palliative medication weblog Pallimed that individuals who select to attend and die alone could be doing so out of concern for his or her family members.
“Now we have these sufferers who die in the course of the evening. We hear tales in regards to the cherished one who simply stepped out for 5 minutes and the affected person died. We might have even witnessed a fast dying ourselves. I imagine this occurs by the affected person’s selection,” wrote Miles. She added that this occurs principally in cases when the dying particular person is a mum or dad. “I imagine it’s a protecting issue,” she defined.
Henry Fersko-Weiss, a licensed scientific social employee and government director of the Worldwide Finish-of-Life Doula Affiliation, feels barely in another way in regards to the subject. Whereas he would not low cost the truth that some folks may die alone, he shared in a YouTube video that individuals like feeling linked and protected earlier than they move away. Fersko-Weiss mentioned that “due to the way in which we take into consideration dying, [we] really feel that we’ll be a burden to family members” if we allow them to see us die. Sparing family members the ache of all of it could be on the coronary heart of the choice however that is one thing family and friends ought to have an open dialog about, he added.